The lighting of the single candle symbolically represents two individuals joining as one, and the extinguishing of the individual tapers shows the bride's and groom's intent to sublimate their individual needs to the greater needs of their union..................
* Prior to the wedding ceremony, a large single Unity Candle and two slimmer tapers are placed in holders and arranged in the area where the wedding ceremony will be performed. *During the wedding ceremony, after the exchange of vows and rings, the bride and groom move to the area where the candles have been readied, careful to not obscure the congregation's view of the candles with their bodies. Two honored participants, one representing each side of the family (for example, the bride's mother and the groom's mother) light the individual tapers for their children. *The bride and groom each take their lighted tapers and simultaneously light the center, larger candle between them. *The bride and groom extinguish their taper and return them to their holders.
Most couples keep their unity candle and relight it on special occasions such as their wedding anniversaries.